4/21/08

Adoption

No pictures, sorry. Just a quick little note since it's been awhile since I've added a post. So this past weekend Adam and I had to spend Friday and Saturday at an adoption seminar (we are trying to get our paperwork in to LDS adoption). For the most part it was a bunch of couples who have emotional issues about their infertility. Some of it was good though. They did have a panel of birthmothers come and share their side of adoption. I think about Noah's birthmom on occasion, but I guess I never really thought about what she had to go through. Birthmoms are incredible people. I don't think I could comprehend the emotions they go through when they turn over their child to a stranger to raise. I will forever be grateful for Noah's birthmom and the sacrifice she made so we could fulfil our dream of becoming parents. The other thing I learned from that almost pointless weekend was that I am completely satisfied with the way my life has turned out. For most of those couples (even the ones with kids) all they want is MORE. I'm sure they love the kids they do have, but they are constantly worried about the things/kids they don't have. It's almost like they have a certain number in their head and if they don't have that many kids than they have failed. I guess my moto is quality not quantity. Yes, Adam and I always dreamed of having 5 or 6 kids, but when we realized we don't get to make that decision we are satisfied with whatever Heavenly Father wants to give us. We are just so happy to be parents; even if Noah is the only one we get we couldn't ask for a better kid. Sorry that was a little longer than I was planning. I guess my point is, even though our lives haven't turned out the way we invisioned (in some aspects) we are 100% satisfied with the way things are. LIFE IS GOOD!! -Side note: don't get too anxious the average waiting time for LDS adoption is 2+ years)-

12 comments:

Jon & Bridget said...

Ya know... I seriously can't believe how our lives have turned out. Who would have ever thought all of us would be in this situation. I can tell anyone that I appreciate JT more than I probably would if we had him on our own. Jon and I went to a 2 hour meeting thing for the church and got the low-down. I just don't know if that is the route we are supposed to go. It was pretty amazing to look at the other 2 couples that were there and had kids and just decided to do it. We shared a lot of our adoption story with them to kind of help them understand the process and the ups and downs. It is strange to look at all of our friends that have 3-4 kids and think that it could have been me. The thing that upsets me more than anything is just the "not knowing." I still have my days that I am very frustrated and sad, but we are so blessed to even get JT. I am sure you know exactly how I am feeling :) We need to get together next time you are down. Anyway... enough of this novel. Talk to ya soon. Love ya! :)

Jessica said...

You have such a great attitude, what faith! We'll send some prayers up in your behalf, maybe it will be closer to 2 years.

mammasweet said...

I feel pretty much the same about my life, Summer. I know people think I should be sad more than I am - but I am so grateful to have the family I do have now. Love, Mom

The Yoder's Three said...

You are an amazing person and Noah is so lucky to have you as a mom. I'm sure there's a few more kids to come that are meant especially for you. I really admire your patience--you guys have been through a lot and it must not be easy to be starting the process all over again. Good luck!

Anonymous said...

I couldn't agree more. I feel that I appreciate my girls more because of the trials to get them to us. I sometimes get so frustrated with parents that for some reason can't put up with their kids, yet they continue to have more because of a number in their head. I look at my girls and am glad that I wasn't able to get pregnant (most days). There are days that I would love to experience that, but I wouldn't give them up to do it. I am extremely grateful for adoption and for all involved to make that happen for us. . . some more than others. I hope it happens sooner than later for you. Having two kids is great and fun!

April

Min and Mary said...

What a perspective you have. I've been completely wrapped up in Freddie the last few days and you've reminded me what an incredible blessing parenthood is--no matter HOW they arrive. And you can sure count on me getting my hopes up for your next adoption! Time is irrelevant. It's money that really matters:) Love, M

Mike, Hayley, Tyson, and Julianna said...

You are very right and you both are quite the example. Life is about what you make of it, not about what it gives you. I'm happy for you and for Noah. He got the best parents.

mommaquincy said...

Good luck with the next search for the right baby for you! What a perfect match Noah is for you two! Thanks for your sweet example of being such good parents!

Ellis & Karen said...

It's funny how life doesn't turn out the way you had it planned, but it usually ends up being better in the long run than what you had imagined. Your post inspired me to just be grateful for Nathan, even if he is the only one we get!
Good luck with getting your next baby. Whoever it is, he/she is going to be one lucky baby. You guys are such great parents!

Terra said...

All of it is a huge reminder to me why we truly are Heavenly Fathers children. He really knows what each of us needs. I am so thankful for Taycee and the way she came into our family. I feel equally blessed to have our other girls as well. They are all such wonderful blessings, and yet at times motherhood can be hard, but if it was perfect all the time I would not be learning the lessons in store for me. Good Luck with this go around. Our experience with LDS Family Services was amazing.

Becky & Jim said...

I just wanted to tell you how great it was to see you guys. Even if the circumstances were crummy. Thanks for the love and support. Adam... i found a couple of great pictures from Chile. I'll have to somehow get them to you. Those were GOOD times.
-Becky

Daisy Paige said...

Hey, I happened over here from Todd's blog and vaguely remember your family from growing up in southern Utah. As a birth mother, I can tell you that we are as aware of you as you are of us. I appreciate my daughter's parents so much, but not until I had a baby to keep and raise for myself did I realize how great a miracle I had given them. I will always cherish being a part of that process, and I love knowing they feel the same toward their daughter as I do toward my son.